Daily Teaching for Sunday, May 27th

What if, just for today, you decided to really listen to what your partner was saying to you and waited to formulate your response until after they were done speaking?

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Daily Teaching for Saturday, May 26th

Holiday weekends, especially three-day holiday weekends, are great opportunities to relax and enjoy ourselves. Many people pack so much activity into a three-day weekend that they are exhausted when they have to return to work on Tuesday. How can relaxation be exhausting? How can over-scheduling ourselves and running ourselves into exhaustion be a good thing that we look forward to? Perhaps if we didn’t schedule as many activities on a holiday weekend but chose instead to enter into and enjoy our activities fully, we wouldn’t need to always have more, more, more!

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Daily Teaching for Friday, May 25th

We can allow the past to imprison us through our unwillingness to forgive and adopt a different perspective. If we choose not to do so, we end up imprisoning ourselves.

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William Peter Blatty, Old Fool

William Peter Blatty, the author of The Exorcist, now eighty-five years old, is planning on suing Georgetown University in Catholic Court for not being Catholic enough. I guess when you haven’t written anything that’s earned any attention in the last forty years, you have to do something to get your name back into circulation, even as your person may soon be leaving circulation rather permanently.

Old – literally – Blatty objects that a University might allow free thought and not, in his opinion, adequately censor the speakers they bring in to speak to their students, who are clearly incapable of making their own choices despite being old enough to vote and serve in the military. We desperately need to control their access to information or, the next thing you know, they will start thinking for themselves! When that happens, they are likely to ask questions – like how it is the Roman Catholic Church can even consider the expense of such Church legal actions when it has dioceses in  bankruptcy all around the world!

There’s a lot of nonsense being sputtered by the Church in all its forms about religious freedom. Actually, the nonsense in question is a thinly veiled attempt to impose religious indoctrination upon people under the guise of religious freedom – but that’s not what’s religious freedom is at all. The Constitution says that the State shall not establish an official religion. That guarantees us of the freedom to choose to practice, or not practice, whatever religion we like. You might say, it guarantees freedom of religion as well as freedom from religion if that’s what an individual prefers. Despite the non-establishment clause, and the fact that religious are supposed to be bearers of truth and not spin, Churches in America – no doubt sensing their imminent demise – are pushing harder and harder, by any means necessary, to impose themselves on every corner of American life.

What the Catholic Church has never understood about America is that, in America, Universities are about academic freedom, not religious indoctrination. Religious Universities can certainly require students to take some religion classes and whatever other courses they deem appropriate, and students have the right to examine the graduation requirements before deciding to attend a College or University. What a Church cannot do, at least if it wants to receive Federal Financial Aid on behalf of its students, is restrict the academic freedom of its Professors. In short, you can’t teach nonsense, even if it is religious nonsense, and try to pass it off as truth – and it doesn’t matter what William Peter Blatty, Archbishop Dolan, the Pope, or anyone else, thinks about it.

The truth is that as I get older I am becoming more, not less, convinced that beyond a certain age people should have to pass a psychological evaluation of their ongoing cognitive ability before being able to initiate any sort of action that has more impact than the moving of their bowels. I have instructed my wife, who is younger than I, that should I start doing foolish things as I age to gently pull me aside, sit me down, and say, “Honey, when you were younger you told me to not let you embarrass yourself by being a demented ass in public, and that moment has arrived.” Being reminded that I told her that, I will most likely agree. If not, I have instructed her to lock me in a room with my prayer beads and some old movies to watch – but not The Exorcist. One demented ass in a room is more than enough.

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Daily Teaching for Thursday, May 24th

We often have unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others. If we really want to reduce our stress levels, we will lower our expectations to levels the average human being is capable of! What doesn’t get done today can be done tomorrow, and if tomorrow never comes it will seem as is the time we spent trying to meet expectations on this, the last day of our lives, would have been much better spent in other ways!

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Subtle Child Abuse at the Hands of Mega-Church

I met with a couple a few weeks ago. This time of year, I meet with quite a few couples about their weddings. This couple told me a story I hear far too often, a story that illustrates the hypocrisy of institutional religion in a very clear way. In this case, had the couple followed the church’s advice, they would have allowed the church to inflict abuse on their six-year-old child. It sickens me, and I find that I can no longer describe such absurd nonsense as anything but what it is – religious abuse.

The couple in question approached a local non-denomination church that they have attended for a while. Like most church goers, they aren’t weekly attenders but they do go fairly often. When the time came for them to start planning their wedding, they approached the church to start planning. As I mentioned, the couple have a six-year-old child that the groom brought into their relationship. They have full-time custody and placement of their child. The church’s response to their request to be married? The church told the couple they couldn’t marry them because they live together, but if they lived apart for six months or more, then they could be married by that church.

I have said in the past that such responses are completely unrealistic, that such a response indicates complete ignorance of the financial reality of most couples, that even if couples could afford to comply with such asinine requests it was poor stewardship to set up a second household for six months, that such responses are completely ignorant of the reality that at the time of Jesus couples came to live together at the betrothal. In short, there is no justification beyond the church’s power and control motivations for such a requirement. However, when such a requirement means that a child will have its family disrupted for reasons the child cannot understand – actually, nobody can understand why anyone who purported to represent God would inflict nonsensical pain on anyone, so the child is not alone in not understanding – the practice moves from stupid to abusive.

The practice absent children is nothing more than the church seeking to punish people for living into the sexuality God created them with. The problem is that the church is not anyone’s Mommy or Daddy – and even if it was, parents don’t punish grown people as if they were recalcitrant children. If they try, they discover the children simply don’t come around any more.

Hey, wait a minute…

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Daily Teaching for Wednesday, May 23rd

Everything and everyone is inseparably interconnected. It is a fact of life. My decisions, beliefs, and practices are not isolated events that impact only myself. Because of this truth, none of us are free until all of us are free. We cannot seek to put another in chains without also putting ourselves in chains, even when we appeal to religion to justify our actions.

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